The following is the second in what we hope to be an ongoing, honest series, where women anonymously share situations they’ve faced in the workplace, how they dealt with them, and more importantly, the lesson they learned and advice they’d give to others facing similar challenges.
Describe a situation at work that pushed your professional or personal boundaries.
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I was sexually assaulted and stalked by a work colleague. How did it make you feel? What thoughts did it bring up for you? |
It made me feel small and stupid. That is to say, I couldn't understand how I ended up in that situation. I now know about "grooming" but at the time, I was clueless.
Did anyone show up for you to support you in this situation? If so, how?
I received little support from my organization, and I was encouraged to not make a big deal of it. I remember the CEO saying, "You have to understand, some of this is part of the job."
How did you respond/handle the situation? Did you talk to anyone about it?
I initially spoke out about the situation, but like all toxic situations, the situation began to affect my personal life. I eventually resigned from the position I'd worked my whole career to achieve.
Would you do anything differently, in hindsight?
While I'm certainly smarter now, I'm now sure things would be much different. To be honest, I regretted voicing my situation, even while I was being stalked. I was so unhappy. That said, I realize that situation has brought me to where i am now. I'm mentally and emotionally stronger. I wouldn't tolerate this for anybody now.
If someone else were in a similar situation, what would you advise?
I would advise them to document everything and report per company policy. I would also advise them to assess the workplace. Does it encourage or discourage the behavior? Make plans accordingly. I would also advise to find some mental health support. I went through most of my situation alone and it wasn't the healthiest thing for me.
Is there anything else you'd like to add, include, or comment about?
Women shouldn't have to make the kinds of decisions I was forced to make. A workplace should be safe, period.
Have you learned a lesson the hard way that might help women who find themselves in a similar situation one day? If so, we’d love to hear it. All stories will remain anonymous.